Marriage

I’m getting married.

The question was popped on January 24th and I joyfully said yes to spending the rest of my life with the love of my life. As two twenty-somethings with hardly any disposable income, the idea of a wedding is absolutely terrifying. There are so many costs!! Venue, food, THE dress, bridesmaids dresses, tuxes, flowers, decorations, music, dessert, photographer, videographer....it quite literally never ends. I have known what dress I’ve wanted for a long time, but it is quite pricey and on the upper end of the national average for a wedding dress, but still WAY below what anyone on “Say Yes to the Dress” spends (one lady seriously spent $20k on a DRESS. SERIOUSLY).

We initially opted for a quiet, inexpensive courthouse wedding.

No dresses.
No tuxes.
No food.
No photographer.
No guest list.

And I am totally okay with that. It sounds so stress-free, so focused on our love and dedication to each other for eternity, and places the main focus on God blessing our relationship as we commit our journey together to Him and Him alone.

However, things don’t always come to plan.

My parents could not attend the day we set for the wedding, and I don’t want to get married without them there.

So, we had to reschedule, re-evaluate, and do it all over again (the planning that is).

Now, I am a natural-born planner. I LOVE the stuff. I live for lists and categorizing and organizing, but weddings? That’s a whole other ballgame I’m not prepared for. But I cannot afford a wedding planner to do it all for me (nor do I want one. I’m a bit of a control freak as well), so most of the decisions fall on me as my groom is a serial “whatever you want” type of person (in the kindest way. He wants me to be happy and love whatever we do, and if he genuinely doesn’t like something he will say so). I have the guest list, my dream (but expensive) dress, the food and dessert, wedding shower, and a few venue options figured out, but the rest is..... stressful.

We might have the venue and officiant figured out, I know what cake I want, I know what dietary restrictions to work around, and I already know my main color and flowers. Easy peasy. Wedding band? No fricken clue. I’ve looked at some and none of them were right. And that’s something I actually have to figure out for myself!!

Basically, don’t be surprised if this blog turns into a wedding blog for a bit. I’m going through it.

Oh, and did I mention our wedding date falls on my birthday? So I expect double the presents from everyone attending, and double gifts every year following. Just saying.