Adult Things

The longer I have been living on my own, not with my parents, the more “adult” things I’ve had to do. I’ve had to send emails to our apartment complex due to the roof of our patio rotting and spilling water onto us, and for the ever present marijuana smell outside of our building due to one or more of our upstairs neighbors smoking (also it fills our unit, mainly the bathroom and hallway with the scent which subsequently means we start smelling like weed. Not what I want to smell like). I’ve also had to schedule my own doctors appointments and as I have ADHD, this means I forget more often than I remember to actually make them.
Our complex doesn’t have a recycling bin, so I had to take all of our moving boxes to a recycling facility nearby (thank the Lord it’s a 2 minute drive), and thanks to wedding gifts our dining room is filled with boxes AGAIN. And now, the most adult thing of all, my car is breaking down.

My dad has given it one year if he fixes everything that’s wrong with it now. There’s a weird noise in the front end, the trunk is broken so if you want to open it you have to hold it or it will slam down on top of you, the right turn signal is out due to the wire being broken, it needs new brake pads or something like that, and the sun visors little hook holder thing is broken so they swing freely while driving. Also all the lights, including overhead ones will randomly flash due to some issue with the internal wiring. So yeah, once all that is fixed he things we can get one more year out of it. So I’m currently car shopping preemptively in case it craps out on me sooner.

I k ow a few cars I would love to have, but as I’m married now I also have to think of any “oopsie” pregnancies, and want a car that can easily fit two car seats in the back, and that I won’t have to bend over too much to put kids in them. (We want kids relatively soon, but our 1 bed 1 bath apartment doesn’t have room for kids beyond toddler age. When our lease is up we might try to buy a house or move into a 2 bedroom unit at our complex so we can start trying. But we also aren’t actively NOT trying if that makes sense). So, in the next year I will probably have to buy a new car, and move into a bigger place. Fun!!!!

Also my sleeve tattoo is 3-4 sessions away from being done, about $1k more essentially. I am so excited to have it done because it already looks so amazing!! After that I will probably take a break from tattoos for about a year (we will see if I last that long) and focus on rebuilding my savings after this move has really drained it.

I’m also about to register for classes for my degree which just so happens to not exist in Arizona, so I have to do online classes through another state. Subsequently my two current jobs have me barely able to make rent so I’m looking for other jobs I can work while going to school so I can pay for my half of the rent, school payments, and possibly a car payment. If anyone knows jobs hiring that will pay like $3,500 a month let me know because that’s what I need minimum to not live paycheck to paycheck!!

Being an adult is incredibly difficult and I wish I could just have my parents pay for everything, but since I got my first job and started paying for everything myself while living st home, I have felt bad asking for ANYTHING because I know how hard it is to make the money for anything. There are so many things I need to do that cost money (like doctors appointments to change my meds so I don’t mess up my future children, or appointments to figure out why I’m always bloated and feel sick after I eat anything, or why my right nostril is always blocked even when it’s not my allergy season). I’m struggling to keep myself healthy but I’m loving being on my own and living with the love of my life. I wouldn’t change a thing, except maybe to be making more than minimum wage for once.

I anyone is selling a Toyota RAV4, Chevrolet Malibu, or Ford Fusion from 2012-present for less than 10k, hit me up (I know no one is. At least not ones in good condition with less than 20k miles.).

Thanks for reading this, hopefully I will update you all on everything in my life more often! I love blogging, and love writing my thoughts. Trying to get back to my favorite hobbies, one of which is writing, so I have more ways to de stress after the many 13-17 hour days I’ve been having lately. (Yes, I work that long and still can’t afford my rent and it’s priced extremely reasonably. The woes of minimum wage and taxes).

Thanks for being here,
Jaina